These kids...they can knock the wind right outta ya...Now I know what I put my mother and father through...I apologize every day to them...through prayers. I hear my mother in heaven saying:
"Well, Amy, I told you, that you would find out when you had your own children...and now you are finding out."
She would say it with love though...we are both hard headed women and never afraid to say I told you so. I fear I have born some hard headed daughters and a son.
"Well, Amy, I told you, that you would find out when you had your own children...and now you are finding out."
She would say it with love though...we are both hard headed women and never afraid to say I told you so. I fear I have born some hard headed daughters and a son.
I have thought and said, "I told you so" to each one, without fear...knowing I would be ignored...never gloating when the result was true. But I am sure my children, just like I thought my mother was gloating...think I am gloating about being right.
She didn't want to be right, just like I don't...but...here it comes the dreaded sentence...
"It is what it is!"
An "I told you so" said at an appropriate time, after keeping your mouth shut and watching a child repeatedly make mistakes and not learn...well, it can be a good thing...it reminds our children that wisdom is not a bad thing and we have gained it by not listening to our parents. The key to an excellent "I told you so" is to make sure they know that you are speaking from experience and that YOU didn't listen either. Your wisdom has come from failing, but trying again in a better way or even listening to your mother father and father...finally!
An "I told you so" said at an appropriate time, after keeping your mouth shut and watching a child repeatedly make mistakes and not learn...well, it can be a good thing...it reminds our children that wisdom is not a bad thing and we have gained it by not listening to our parents. The key to an excellent "I told you so" is to make sure they know that you are speaking from experience and that YOU didn't listen either. Your wisdom has come from failing, but trying again in a better way or even listening to your mother father and father...finally!
Mom and Dad weren't perfect either...none of us are...God made us that way on purpose, otherwise we would be Him. We are only made in His image, we are not God. God subtly says "I told you so " to us also...yet, He unconditionally loves us when we rebel against His guidance. He only wants the best for us...I believe that is what parents want also.
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Hi Amy - I just wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed reading your blog post. I am actually expecting my first child and I am sure that I will be able to completely relate to this in a few months! I actually just started my own blog for a master's class that I am taking, I would love your feedback and advice - my blog is appropriately called "neverenoughtime4anap". Here is the link to my post this week http://bit.ly/1wwDqjb.
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